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What's so sexy about a leather belt wrapped around a wrist?

Girl on the Net: Woo yay! Let's talk sexy belt kink!

Pandora Blake: Yes! I have to say I'm really enjoying the responses to this set, both on the site and on Twitter. It makes me feel very good to have internet folks appreciating the hotness of my boyfriend. I'm particularly enjoying that he seems to have a goth girl fan base :)

GotN: Goth girl fan base does NOT surprise me in the least, being a kind of clumsy goth myself =) I actually really wanted to ask you about that - do you get pride-shivers when people tell you how hot D is? Like, is there a showing off how hot he is element to photosets and videos?

PB: Very much yes. It makes me feel proud, delighted and very smug to hear people compliment him - it's like, yes, isn't he gorgeous, thanks for noticing, and he's MINE. I feel the same way when he dates new people to be honest - it always makes me appreciate him a little bit more and feel very pleased and proud when I see people being attracted to him

GotN: Ooh, yes I can definitely see that. Also, obviously am grateful, being one of the people who very much enjoys perving on his photosets.

PB: It is quite literally my pleasure.

GotN: This set in particular seems to have struck a chord with lots of people - and obviously me too. One of the things that really got me about it was that photo with the belt round his wrist - whose idea was that?

PB: Oh, that was entirely mine. When I was first looking through the unedited photos to remind myself what we had to work with, I had a chat window open with him, and a few pictures leaped out at me and gave me this involuntary physical quake of lust, so I posted them to him in the chat. That photo of the belt wrapped around his wrist was one of them.

PB: I was directing the set - which I can do with a very clear head when I'm neither modelling nor taking the photos - and I remember staging that shot. Neither D nor Matt really got the point of it, but I was determined I wanted it. When I looked through the photos again there was this double pleasure of seeing that shot - the pure rush of desire at seeing an image that struck one of my kinks so perfectly, and the sort of meta-delight at having successfully created something that was so perfectly porn for me. That was my aim with this set, to shoot something very self-indulgent, so it was lovely to feel so clearly that I'd got it right.

GotN: Ohhh, that is so hot! And it totally reinforces for me why the best porn is often the porn that's made by people who have exactly those kinks. Looking at that picture I would never have thought to explain that specific shot to anyone - I'd never have told a partner to do that or why it would be hot - but it gave me that exact same kick, and looking at it I realised that someone who didn't share the exact same belt-kinks with me would have been unlikely to stumble on something that hot by accident.

GotN: Also: by self-indulgent do you mean 'this is the set I'd make for myself to wank to'? :)

PB: That's exactly what I mean.

PB: Specifically, I wanted to shoot something to suit my own tastes without any reference to whether it might be popular or not. I'd never heard of a reverse striptease before, and I wasn't sure whether a solo male dom set would make any money, but that wasn't the point of this - it was to please myself. That's one of the reasons it's been so validating to receive positive responses to it. I love knowing that my specific porn tastes which aren't commonly catered to are shared by others!

GotN: Oh I totally see what you mean there - and although this is going to sound horribly gendered I think that's why it's so important for me, as a mostly-straight woman, to see female-directed porn. The female gaze is not something that can just be captured by copying male-gaze porn and making it softer, or focusing heavily on genitals, or whatever: it really stands out when you see something made by someone who is behind the camera feeling genuine, kinky lust for someone. Not sure if I've explained it that well, but yep - I've struggled to explain female gaze to people before, and I think from now on I'm just going to direct them to this photoset.

 PB: So what is it about the belt-round-wrist that's so sexy for you?

GotN: Belts: sexiness beyond measure. I think of all the spanking implements they're my favourite. But it's not just that I love them: belts have something about them that many subby people can't resist. One of the most cited turn-ons for subs (in my general experience from sexy comments on my blog and etc) is that they love the sound that belts make when they're pulled out through the loops: that swish of a belt that says 'you're in trouble.' And then, on top of that...

GotN: Forearms are a stunningly hot feature, which does not get nearly enough love in my opinion. Biceps are often worshipped, but (I think I might be able to dig out the survey on this but not sure) forearms are one of the most frequently-cited turn-ons for women. Not sure what to call that - 'perv zones'? Lots of people perv on forearms, and yet they're rarely put front and center of a sexy scene. That belt-round-wrist thing combined D's gorgeous forearms with the symbolism of the belt, and then a slightly intimidating (in a domly hot way) blurred image of him in the mirror in the background behind. Unngh. So much hot.

PB: I LOVE forearms.

PB: For me, a strong looking forearm makes me think "I bet that person would be able to spank me really hard" more than a strong bicep does - perhaps because bicep worship is so common, it's more generalised rather than specifically a kink thing. (Although I do love biceps too.)

PB: That image is an interesting one - it doesn't prefigure any particular kink act; he's not wrapping it around his hand in preparation to hit someone with it. And yet the tension of the leather, the way it bites into teh skin of his wrist, the contrast between his smooth skin and the warm texture of the belt, and the firm grip of his hand, all suggest tension and strength and anticipation in a way that's incredibly powerful.

GotN: Oh yes! Strong forearms - and oh bracelets and tattoos on forearms too. Mmm. D's wearing quite a neat bracelet in that photoset as well, which draws attention to the forearm so nicely - the same way I'd wear a necklace to draw attention to a cleavage. More people should do this

PB: I love seeing that bracelet on him actually - it was a gift from a friend who made friendship bracelets for the whole friendship group in our favourite colours, and D wore his for ages. I still have mine too! It grounds the set in reality and reminds me that he's my real boyfriend with a life outside porn, as well as a super hot naked porn guy.

PB: So the reverse striptease. It was an idea I had ages ago, and I'm really pleased with the result. Does it work for you having him start naked and finish dressed?

GotN: YES! OMG so that was another thing I wanted to talk about. In general, I think my kinks tend towards guys who are either clothed or semi-clothed. This actually probably ties in to the hotness of bracelets and tattoos too: it's all about highlighting. Clothes draw your focus to a particular place. So in that photoset, you're kind of immediately plunged into 'oh, there's a seriously hot naked guy here', then as the set goes on, and the clothes go on piece by piece, it draws your attention to each feature. I LOVE it, and I would love to see more reverse stripteases in porn.

GotN: It actually reminds me a little of your calligraphy photoset with Adele Haze too - the words slowly covering the skin make you take your time looking at all the details of someone's body. So with D gradually covering himself over the course of the set, you get to go from full-on naked then take time to appreciate his forearms, the tone of his stomach, and each detail, before ending on his hands slipping into the leather gloves

PB: speaking of which, can we take a moment to just appreciate the hotness of leather gloves

GotN: ohhhh yes! Leather gloves are <3

GotN: Also: white shirts with black buttons, which you don't see much but which HOLY SHIT highlight D's hands as he's slowly buttoning up the shirt

GotN: I mean basically I am just 'splaining to you how hot your boyfriend is, but yeah :)

PB: It's all good!

GotN: I also wanted to ask you - is this your favourite D photoset? I've enjoyed loads of D on Dreams of Spanking, but I wondered if you have a favourite set or picture of him? Or as the director, do you love them all equally?

PB: The highlighting thing is an interesting one - I hadn't thought of it that way. For me, the reverse striptease isn't so much about revealing each feature as creating desire via unavailability. It's like, D is immediately available at the start so you see how yummy he is, but then as he goes from sleepy boy to gradually getting covered up, it has this slight distancing effect by making him seem older, more unavailable, and more dominant. For me lust has a lot to do with wanting without having, so for his body to go from revealed to covered increases the desire - as well as the specific clothes creating an aura of toppiness that has me squirming in my seat.

PB: This is my favourite D photoset right now, and I'm kind of obsessed with this picture that gives his beauty a rockstar pinup quality: I would totally have had that picture on my wall as a teenager. In fact I might make myself a print of it.

PB: But I'm also really fond of this set.

GotN: Oh I <3 Tangled With You too! You both just look so incredibly calm and happy in it. And I can definitely see why you'd have that rockstar picture on your wall - D has a really casually-hot vibe, like he's left the door to his rockstar dressing room open because he kind of hoped you'd walk in while he was getting changed.

PB: It's so lovely making porn with your lovers! I highly recommend it.

GotN: It's bloody wonderful for you to share it with us! I mean obviously we're kind of back to 'OMG your boyfriend is so hot' territory here, but on top of that it's incredible to see him through your eyes, if you see what I mean. I think it's a different perspective to the way it would be if you were strangers - there's a closeness as well as obviously your kinky eye, which picks up on the details that another director might not.

PB: Thank you! Full credit to Matt Christie as well for taking such superb pictures - he's got an amazing eye for light and composition, even if toppy men aren't his kink. I'd love to see more female photographers and directors shooting the men they love - I think you're right that the intimacy of shooting someone you're close to results in really special images. Here's to more sexy men in porn!

GotN: Amen to that!

Sexy selfies - a hot teacher and a very naughty schoolgirl

Just thinking about some of the photos that I have sent to partners and loved ones is enough to stir fear in my heart as well as arousal in my knickers. In general, I rarely send sexy selfies – mainly because I can barely point a camera in the right direction and as a rule I'd like to leave it to the pros. As I'm sure you'll agree, the framing, quality, and sheer raw hotness of Pandora's upskirt shots are far superior to the blurry mess that amateurs like me would produce.

But there's another reason I rarely take them. Having pressed the button to capture the picture, there are always worries about who's going to end up with it, or whether they'll share it with people you don't want them to. And that's before you've even contemplated the possibility that you'll hit 'confirm' on the wrong number and end up sending the picture to your sister/ex/lawyer – anyone other than the intended recipient.

This week's schoolgirl photoset captures all the intense hotness of sending a sexy selfie, combined with the humiliation of getting caught.

The intimacy of the photoset is gorgeously candid: upskirt photos, complete with sheer knickers that leave little to the imagination. A rapid shift from Pandora's girlish poses at the beginning – neat and tidy in school uniform with knee socks and patent heels – to her joyfully sexual poses as she spreads her legs for the camera.

This scenario tackles the fear of being found out: something most of us who've taken sexy selfies will understand. The hammering in your heart as you realise someone else might have seen, and the worry about the consequences...

When Pandora's teacher, D, catches her on the secluded stairwell, school skirt round her waist and knickers on display, it's the worst-case scenario she could imagine. Luckily for us, her punishment is a hand spanking in the corner, followed by an erotically charged thrashing with the cane – hard enough to leave marks that can be seen through her sheer panties.


From the eyes Pandora makes at her teacher - and the swiftness with which he takes advantage of the opportunity to physically dominate her - it's clear that this is more than punishment. It seems that Pandora is hot for her teacher - but does he return her interest, or is he just administering on-the-spot discipline to a very naughty schoolgirl?

The hot teacher/horny student fantasy is an excellent way to relive the excitement of getting caught without actually, you know, getting caught. The 'what if?' here is far sexier than any real life worries, because getting caught with her skirt round her waist and her phone in her hand leads to the punishment of Pandora's dreams. And, judging by the way her teacher is so quick to tell her to bend over - and his insistence on confiscating the sheer panties she's so shamelessly shown off - it's pretty clear that catching her flashing her knickers isn't the worst thing that could have happened to him, either.

If only getting caught was always so satisfactory. Have you ever been caught flashing your bits to take a sexy selfie, or accidentally sent it to the wrong person? Or do you have a happy ending you'd care to share...?

Poetry in motion - animated spanking gifs

It's a comment I've heard before when posting a particularly tantalising photoset: "it looks great, but it should have been a video".  When it comes to spanking, it seems that a lot of people feel that motion is the name of the game. Whether it's the lip-biting swoosh of a cane through the air, the way peachy flesh ripples across a bottom at the moment of impact, or the beautiful scrunchy faces made by the recipient, spanking is a uniquely dynamic activity.

So it's no surprise that spankings work particularly well as animated gifs. AJ has turned her hand to making them recently, and I'm loving the results. I thought you might like to see some of the hot spanking snippets she's been sharing on our Tumblr - and some bonus gifs too big and juicy to fit within Tumblr's filesize guidelines.

How about some of Amelia Jane Rutherford (AKA Ariel Anderssen)'s famous faces?

Ariel Anderssen screws up her eyes in anticipation, then winces as the cane falls

Ariel can tell this stroke is going to hurt from the moment she feels the taps

 I love Ariel's expressiveness here: that moment when she realises that the next stroke is going to hurt, and her cheerful face scrunches up into a pout of anticipation - followed by a yell as the cane stroke lands right on the crease. I know, I'm too mean.

It's okay, though, because after being so cruel to Ariel I'm about to get my comeuppance - and I love the grin on D's face as he dishes out the same treatment!

The cane for Pandora Blake - right on the crease

One of the nicest things (in my opinion) about my sponsored caning video is the interplay between me and D - including some lovely affectionate, teasing touch. I really like the moments AJ has pulled out and highlighted here.

The cane for Pandora Blake

Bottom rubs for Pandora Blake between strokes of the cane

But spanking itself is arguably the best subject matter for an animated gif. Because they loop endlessly on repeat, they are perfectly suited to the rhythmic rise and fall of an over-the-knee hand spanking...

Fauni Cate gets a firm hand spanking over the knee from his strict uncle Richard Barton

A slow, firm hand spanking on the bare bottom for Pandora Blake

And they're perfect for highlighting those hot little moments that really press your buttons...

Poorly patient David Weston is spanked and abused by sadistic nurse Talia Lane

Molly Malone gasps under the pain of the strap

Alex Reynolds writhes in pain as the tawse lands sharply across her bare backside

Real life lovers Talia Lane and David Weston have fun in the tub with hand spanking and bubble butts

But my favourite gifs so far are the ones AJ made from Schoolgirl Takedown starring me and Ten Amorette. It's a high-tempo resistance play scene with non-stop struggling, wriggling, wrestling and spanking, and it was almost impossible to screengrab. But with gifs, we aren't limited to a single screen frame - which makes it that much easier to preview all the hot, gutsy girl-on-girl action.

Pandora Blake holds a hand over Ten Amorette's mouth as she wrestles the younger schoolgirl to the ground

Pandora Blake peppers schoolgirl Ten Amorette's bottom with hard stinging hand spanks

Pandora Blake pins Ten Amoreette to the ground - and delivers a humiliating face slap when she protests

So what do you think - do spanking gifs work for you? What moments would you pick out to enshrine in gif format? Do you like to see impact, facial reaction, anticipation, or an endless rhythmic spanking loop? Please do tell us your thoughts in the comments!

Real life couple caning - D and Pandora

If you've been following this site for a while, you might have noticed something missing. Although the archive is crammed with hot spanking videos, and many of them show me playing with real life partners and lovers (particularly my top of ten years, Thomas), one person has been conspicuous by their absence: my long-term boyfriend and dominant, D.

Real life couple D and Pandora indulge in erotic spanking at Dreams of Spanking Real life couple D and Pandora indulge in erotic spanking at Dreams of Spanking

D and I have created plenty of photosets together, but he's never topped me on video. As a dominant he is relaxed and spontaneous, and the idea of following a script, playing a character and pretending to scold and punish me isn't really him. He's an exhibitionist, but unlike me, he doesn't enjoy performing.

It's a point of principle for me as a director not to pressure anyone to do anything they aren't comfortable with. So we've always stayed within D's comfort zone, shooting occasional photosets that didn't make him feel like he was acting. Until now.

Now, there is a spanking video starring me and D on Dreams of Spanking - and with a 50 stroke cold caning, he certainly knows how to make an entrance.

50 cold cane strokes for Pandora Blake from her real life partner D

When I set up my fundraising campaign to raise money to help non-profit organisation Backlash challenge the new UK porn laws, D was behind me every step of the way. Our shared political values are one of the fundamentals of our relationship, and we've both always been active in politics in different ways. When I told him I needed someone to beat me on video to fight internet censorship, he was happy to step forward - no acting necessary.

This was the longest, hardest caning D has ever given me. Dishing out fifty hard cane strokes on film purely for the sake of it was never going to be his cup of tea - but as an act of political protest? Sure.

50 cold cane strokes for Pandora Blake from her real life partner D

Speaking of cups of tea, one of my favourite moments in this free caning film is jjust before stroke sixteen, when I insist on pausing the caning so I can finish my half-drunk cuppa. It turns out that taking fifteen hard cane strokes on the bare bottom is the perfect way to pass the time while you wait for your tea to cool to the ideal drinking temperature. What better pick-me-up to boost my spirits for the remaining strokes? This is a protest film about the new UK porn laws, after all - and I don't think there's any combination more British than tea and caning.

50 cold cane strokes for Pandora Blake from her real life partner D

I love the playfulness and affection between D and me in this video. We were both being ourselves, no roleplay, no characters, and watching it back the dynamic feels very true to our relationship. He doesn't usually watch my spanking videos, but he watched this one and chuckled his way through it at our banter and in-jokes. "It feels very us," he told me. "We're adorkable."

50 cold cane strokes for Pandora Blake from her real life partner D

If you've ever looked at my steamy photosets with D and felt curious about our relationship, and wanted to meet the man behind the pictures, watch this film. It's about as honest a portrait of the two of us as you can get.

Apart from the caning, of course. That bit's completely out of character.

50 cold cane strokes for Pandora Blake from her real life partner D

The British Fetish Film Festival

The British Fetish Film Festival

D and I are currently on our way to the first ever British Fetish Film Festival - a new UK festival run by Hywel Phillips and Ariel Anderssen, screening adult fetish films to a sympathetic audience. A couple of years ago we attended the "zeroth" festival - a dry run for producers to screen their films to each other and test the format. That was my first ever experience watching my film on a large screen and I learned a lot from it.

Two years later, I'm a bit less of a nervous newbie. Last year I attended several porn screenings, including at the Feminist Porn Awards and the Berlin Porn Film Festival - as well as an excitingly official screening of 'Silver Shoes' by Blue Artichoke Films at the Institute of Contemporary Arts in London. (Feminist porn! On a mainstream cinema! In London! I think we can call that progress.)

The film I submitted to this one, the British Fetish Film Festival, is Instructed, which I've already seen screened in Berlin. I didn't hate it on the big screen - in fact I thought it played well, mostly thanks to Ms Naughty and Luke's gorgeous videography and Ms Naughty's editing. Now that I've already watched myself push a lubed-up butt plug into my arsehole in front of a few hundred people, I feel like a veteran, and this time I don't think I'll need to hide behind a cushion as my film is screened.

The version I submitted is a new edit by me, drawing heavily on Ms Naughty's pacing choices which I thought worked so well in Berlin. It's going to be the first time I've watched this film on a big screen with D there, which will be a happy thing. 'Instructed' not only uses his words and his voice, but it tells the story of an important moment in our relationship, in which he surprised me from across the ocean with a loving gesture of support for my porn career, that left me feeling affirmed, dominated, and very loved. I'll always be fond of 'Instructed', and I'm looking forward to showing it to my fellow UK producers.

The festival will also include a couple of workshops, including one I'm leading on the new UK porn laws, and one Hywel is leading on making films more cinematic. I plan to use my workshop to incite a worker-led porn revolution against government censorship. No, seriously. I'm planning something. Let me know if you want to get involved.

But the thing I'm most nervous and excited about is Sunday, when I'll be taking a 50-stroke sponsored cold caning as part of our fundraiser for Backlash UK. Last month I ran an Indiegogo campaign pledging to take one hard cane stroke for every £10 raised, and Nimue Allen joined me in putting her arse on the line. I was astonished by the rate at which donations flooded in, and we quickly reached our self-imposed maximum of 50 strokes each. By the time the campaign ended, we'd raised a staggering £3836 for Backlash, with a total of ten volunteers willing to take a hard caning to help fight porn censorship. Every penny of the total is going to Backlash to help them campaign against the new porn legislation, and to help provide legal support for those affected by these regressive laws.

Nimue took her caning yesterday, and Ariel Anderssen and I are taking ours on Sunday after the festival. In fact, I'll be administering Ariel's beating before D gives me mine, because there's no better way to get me in the mood for a caning than to dish one out. The canings will all be filmed and the videos will be released for free online - both as a thank you to the 105 generous contributors who made the fundraiser such a success, and as a Creative Commons project to raise awareness about the unjust censorship of our freedom of sexual expression in the UK. Watch this space!

5 reasons why Dreams of Spanking is better than 50 Shades of Grey

There's no stopping the freight train that is 50 Shades of Grey. Since the film opened in cinemas this weekend, you can expect a million more articles about it from kinksters and non-kinksters alike dissecting the story, the acting, and above all the consent.

Naturally the book is pretty controversial. It's a fantasy scenario, sure, but as the 50 Shades juggernaut rolled on and more people read articles about how to 'do' BDSM like Christian Grey did, a lot more people started getting worried that, you know, perhaps this weirdly stalky, abusive lead character wasn't the best role model for people just beginning to explore their fantasies.

I've been told I'm wrong on this, so feel free to angrily disagree with me, but as a general rule I'm uncomfortable telling people what they can and can't fantasise about. And while 50 Shades is clearly not the template for a healthy relationship, I'm not going to stand outside the cinema with a placard telling people it's causing them harm. Erika Moen put it brilliantly:

“I have faith in people to understand that the fictional book they're reading is just a trashy two-dimensional fantasy to get their juices flowing and not the blueprints by which to construct their actual relationships.”

But while it's certainly not a template for real-life kink, it's definitely a handy comparator when identifying mistakes, and looking at how we can do real-life kink better. So without further ado, here are five ways in which Dreams of Spanking is a hell of a lot better than That Bloody Book.

1. We're way better at negotiating

There's surely nothing less sexy than Christian Grey's bizarre 'sex contract', with bullet points and legalese obscuring the hotness of the acts he wants to perform. Loads of people have pointed out that the idea of an irreversible, non-negotiable 'contract' is laughable in BDSM, and they're right – no one gets to claim you as their sub 'forever' or hold you to clauses once they've stopped being sexy for you. But on top of that, there are much better ways to negotiate what you want in a scene. Let's see what we've got...

How about this amazing kinky spanking scene starring Caroline Grey and Will Savage? After blagging their way into a fetish club, they realise they haven't a clue what they're doing. With subtle questions, gradual escalation, and some aroused feedback from Caroline, he escalates to a full-on, knickers-down, over the knee paddling. They both have an amazing – all while trying not to let on that this is the first time they've ever done it - and not a contract in sight.

Sweet and sexy first-time kink at Dreams of Spanking

Or perhaps this beautiful bit of negotiation between Nimue Allen and Andrew Shada? The pair are on their first date, and there's clearly a spark that will appeal to romance fans. Andrew's shyness and Nimue's encouraging requests for a spanking are both cute and incredibly relateable. If Nimue can ask her beau for what she wants, so can you.

2. It's all consensual

I mean, this one should really go without saying. But the point I mainly want to make here is that, because Dreams of Spanking fulfils fantasies via roleplay, it has a broad scope to enact darker fantasies in an ethical, consensual way.

Scenes that involve an abuse of power or a particularly severe thrashing are always published with behind the scenes interviews and discussion. 50 Shades doesn't come with a separate interview in which Christian and Ana talk about how his abusive behaviour was just play-acting, and so it's much harder to draw the line between which aspects of a fantasy are hot because you'd never want them to happen for real, and which are things you'd like to do in real life. At Dreams of Spanking, we're able to make that distinction clear.

Edgy tawse punishment fantasy brought to life at Dreams of Spanking

3. We switch it up

I read a lot of kinky erotica and watch a fair amount of porn, and one of the themes I often think about is the idea of roles. You play Christian Grey, I play Ana, and never the twain shall switch. But while there's certainly a place for strict roles that never waver, I love a bit of switching. Spanking someone who's going to spank you next adds a whole level of trust, as well as a frisson of sexy tension – if you spank them hard, are they going to get their own back? Not to mention a chance for some non-verbal negotiation as you show them exactly how you like it.

In 'Prove your Love' Michael Darling and Pandora Blake do one of the most balanced switch scenes I've ever seen, and in 'Beat the Recession', Nimue Allen and Sebastian Hawley take turns to spank each other on a money-saving celebratory night in. The best part of the second video, in my humble and pervy opinion, is when Nimue smacks both palms flat on Sebastian's beautifully-presented bottom.

Cute girls and boys spanking each other at Dreams of Spanking

4. Our romance is just more... interesting

Guy meets girl, guy wines and dines her, stalks her until she says yes and then they shag: as the premise of pretty much every mainstream romance ever, it's not exactly original. How about guy meets girl, girl gets a birch for Christmas and asks him to test it on her? Or perhaps guy meets girl, girl has hot fantasy about being a mistreated maidservant, and he surprises her on a Saturday morning by dressing up in period costume - and bringing a cane?

There's a time and a place for more traditional romance, of course – although you'll never see the “stalking is sexy” theme on Dreams of Spanking. One of my personal favourite photosets is Tangled With You – a stunning explicit gallery with Pandora and D being so hot and horny for each other it burns into every image. Which brings me neatly onto point five...

Real life couples in love and lust at Dreams of Spanking

5. Our cast has chemistry

A couple of people have told me disdainfully that Jamie Dornan and Dakota Johnson (who play Christian and Ana in the 50 Shades of Grey film adaptation) don't really like each other that much. I don't know if this is true – to be honest I think I'd struggle to spend months working with someone I didn't like, so I doubt it. On the other hand, perhaps they've been put under so much pressure to capture a 'spark' that they're sick of the sight of each other by now. Either way, there's an easy way to get around the 'chemistry' issue when you're shooting porn: find people who really fancy each other, and ask them what they really want to do.

Dreams of Spanking scenes and ideas come from all manner of places, but the most vital is the performer fantasy element. When the people acting in a scene can help shape it with their own kinks and desires, what comes through is inevitably going to be natural and hot.

A giggly pleasurable caning for Pandora Blake at Dreams of Spanking

A beautiful example of this is Pandora's giggly caning at the hands of Paul Kennedy (who, by the way, I have a gigantic crush on). Not only is it something she's specifically requested, but it's so clear from her sexy sighs and excited giggles that Paul's catering to a genuine and heartfelt desire. Likewise with the gorgeous double caning that she begs from Nimue Allen and Thomas Cameron – you can watch the bliss suffuse her face as she counts out the strokes with audible pleasure, and moans in delight when she gets a bottom rub in between whacks.

What's more, Dreams of Spanking shoots porn performer couples like David Weston and Talia Lane, who are together in real life as well as on camera. In scenes like our latest Valentine's Day spanking special David and Talia just can't hide their natural flirty dynamic. And why would we want them to?

Sensuous real couple switch spanking at Dreams of Spanking

In case you'd reached the end of this and hadn't realised, every single link above goes to a different Dreams of Spanking scene. If you watched each scene, that'd still be less than 5% of what's available on the entire site. So if you're eschewing the cinema this weekend, grab yourself a subscription and have a rummage through our archive. All our films are downloadable, so once you've got them they're yours to keep forever, and watch whenever you like!

Over the knee erotic spanking

I adore Matt Christie's photos - his gift with natural light makes every image glow, and he has created some gorgeously erotic pictures of me and my partner D. I think my personal favourite will always be Tangled With You, but I love this new gallery of Erotic Spanking photos in which D takes me over the knee. My hot topless boyfriend and a long, indulgent hand spanking - two of my favourite things!

Erotic spanking with real life couple Pandora and D at Dreams of Spanking

It always feels like a treat I get a spanking from D. He knows how much it turns me on, and when he takes the time to spank me it makes me feel very loved. But that pleasure is always twinned with a certain amount of shock and indignance, because he has a hard hand - and his spankings really hurt!

He has ways of easing the pain, though. I love it when he rests a comforting hand on my back to soothe me through a series of hard spanks - but it turns me on even more when he puts a hand over my mouth to stop my cries, or reaches around to squeeze my breast.

Erotic spanking with real life couple Pandora and D at Dreams of Spanking

I love that Matt Christie took the time to capture little details from this scene - like the delicate lace of my knickers, or the moment after D took them down, when they got caught hooked around my six inch stilettos.

Erotic spanking with real life couple Pandora and D at Dreams of Spanking Erotic spanking with real life couple Pandora and D at Dreams of Spanking

But my favourite photo from this set is this one of me glancing up, just after a spank has landed. The look in my eyes tells you everything you need to know about how I feel in that moment.

Erotic spanking with real life couple Pandora and D at Dreams of Spanking

It's easy to see that when I'm getting a bare bottom spanking over his knee, I am very much in my happy place.

Erotic spanking with real life couple Pandora and D at Dreams of Spanking

"Always Measure The Van"

I know you haven't heard from me for a while, but it's been a long hot summer already, with all the Dreams of Spanking ladies flitting around like dirty little butterflies; Pandora's been up and down the country sampling the delights of the countryside in between mad bouts of video editing and volunteering; Girl on the Net has been firing off some amazing copy for us, and keeping sales afloat during the admittedly difficult summer months; and I've been desperately trying to keep up with tumblr and fetlife, while juggling a whole gamut of interesting life events. It's been amazing though, I've done some editing I'm really proud of (keep your eyes peeled for today's update, Day Ten of her Training, a classy vintage domestic discipline scene featuring Leia-Ann Woods and Thomas Cameron), and I no longer remember what it was like before I was working with so many talented and fascinating people every day!

Tuesday just gone presented itself with the rarest of opportunities - Pandora, her partner D, Girl on the Net, myself and my partner were all in town and without plans! Grabbing the chances with all ten hands, we headed off to a quirky little pub in Borough to eat pie, drink beer, and set the world to rights. We quickly occupied an upstairs room, and covered a great many salacious topics, including (but not limited to):

  • Wedgie fetish (and it's unsurprising crossover with the spankos);
  • The man with two cocks;
  • Sexy religious iconography;
  • The enlightening and disturbing comprehensiveness of the clips4sale categories list;
  • Fat shaming and body positivity in porn;
  • Strap-ons and chastity play;
  • Spank Magic: The Gathering - like Strip Poker, only way nerdier;
  • And of course, the titular van. I probably shouldn't go into detail, as it's not my tale to tell; suffice to say, it involved a kidnapping fantasy and a rather narrow alleyway!

The depth and breadth of the discourse ensured that we always had the room to ourselves, which I'm calling a win.

However, socialising wasn't our main aim for this meetup. We ultimately got together so that Pandora could give Girl and I our super shiny new business cards! I don't know about GotN, but I have never had a proper business card, let alone one that included the word "manager", so this was a big deal for me. We were both so chuffed with them that we posted them on twitter the next day. I mean seriously, what is there not to love about business cards with bottoms on them?

Aren't they great? I can't wait to start handing them out to people.

I hope you've enjoyed this wee glimpse into some of the fun stuff that goes on in the staging area. It was excellent to catch up in person and we're feeling a lot more refreshed as we go into the last few weeks of summer. There's some fantastic material coming up and, well... you're gonna love it!

Sex blogger spanking month, and other links around the web

I'm never quite sure whether summer is a good time to be selling porn or not - a lot of people are on holiday enjoying good clean fun (or perhaps indulging in some real-world kink or sex), and far be it from me to try to lure people back indoors out of the sunshine to watch a screen. Still, school is long behind us and we don't all get to take the whole summer off any more- more's the pity! - so I guess there is still a need for erotic spanking entertainment to amuse discerning adults on summer evenings. (And perhaps afternoons. And maybe even mornings, if you're keen...)

So I've been surprised at how many mentions I've seen of our films around different corners of the web this month. Do people still watch spanking video and write blogposts when it's 30° centigrade outside? Apparently so - and here are the reviews to prove it.

Femdom Resource - Ethical Erotica

I don't know the person behind Femdom Resource, but I was delighted to hear them pick out Dreams of Spanking in a discussion on ethical and fairtrade porn. They particularly like our mix of male and female spankees, illustrating the post with a photo from male-female switch spanking scene Corporal Punishment: "There’s a variety of gender combinations which I think makes for a pleasant change. Personally I can admire all manner of well reddened bottoms."

Corporal punishment - M/F and F/M switch spanking scenes at Dreams of Spanking

Spanking Blog - The best way to tame Bridezilla

I'm a huge fan of Molly and Nimue's first scene together, and it seems that so is the Spanking Blog. In Bridezilla, Molly plays the perfect truculent bride brought to tearful humility by her mistreated maid of honour. The chemistry between the two performers absolutely crackles, the acting is fantastic and the spankings are well delivered. And Molly's classic beauty as she bends over for the cane in bridal lingerie doesn't hurt, either.

Out-of-control bride Molly Malone gets the cane at Dreams of Spanking

Lady Laid Bare - The Big Dreams of Spanking Review

Apparently it's spanking month in certain corners of the sex blogosphere, and several bloggers are celebrating with spanking-themed posts. I'm very honoured that some have chosen to include reviews of Dreams of Spanking. Lady Laid Bare has written a number of posts so far, each focussing on particular scenes, and I particularly enjoyed the second, in which she takes a close look at our rollicking Napoleonic War series Havelock's Campaign.

Like me, Lady Laid Bare has an appreciative eye for both male and female spankees, and her reviews take a balanced look across the board of our gender categories. I loved reading how much she'd enjoyed both the M/F and the M/M punishment in Havelock's Campaign - she writes, "One of the best kinds of porn is the kind that makes you feel things you didn’t know you wanted to feel. And this scene did exactly that – it made me feel joy."

The Major and the wench - historical military punishment at Dreams of Spanking

Check out the rest of her posts too - in The big Dreams of Spanking review - part one she watches Lady Godivapart three looks at wet spankings, namely Bathtime and The Waterfight; and her fourth and most recent review focuses on strict governesses, particularly Zoe Montana in The Whipping Boy and me in David's Strict Governess.

Bawdy Bloke - Review: DreamsOfSpanking.com

Lady Laid Bare took a close look at some individual scenes, following the tag trail back through our archive. Another sex blogger joining in with spanking month is Bawdy Bloke, who has produced a comprehensive review of the site as a whole. He seemed to like what he saw, and particularly praised the production values, the site navigation and keyword search page, and the behind the scenes videos that show just how much fun the performers have on set. Thank you Bawdy Bloke!

Even more excitingly, he is also offering a free Dreams of Spanking membership in a prize draw - click here and enter your name to be in with a change of winning a thirty day subscription.

Rebloggy - real love

It seems we're not the only ones who love art nude erotica featuring tattoos, hair pulling, and real couples with sizzling sexual chemistry. Our tumblr post sharing a photo from Tangled has been reblogged 3,534 times and counting. That's a lot of reblogs!

Tangled With You - erotic dominance and submission at Dreams of Spanking

Behind the scenes on a feminist porn set

I had a very pleasant surprise the other day when Girl on the Net sent me this link - Check Out The Trailer For "Instructed" With Pandora Blake.

To say I am stoked to be featured on Fleshbot is an understatement. This is one of those career-defining moments - something I never thought would happen to a performer working in a very niche, kinky corner of the porn industry. I don't think it would have happened if I hadn't been collaborating with a famous feminist porn pioneer. Thank you Ms Naughty!

Speaking of Instructed, the behind the scenes videos are now online. There are three in total - pre-shoot and post-shoot interviews, plus the outtakes from filming. A BBC journalist was present on this shoot, and this is your chance to see what he saw and go behind the scenes on the filming of a feminist porn film. To show you just how much fun I was having, I've made some exclusive Dreams of Spanking screengrabs from our behind the scenes videos. Enjoy!

Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set
Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set
Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set
Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set
Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set Behind the scenes with Pandora Blake on a feminist porn set

Members can view all three behind the scenes videos at the scene page. I've also uploaded the pre-shoot interview (i.e. the only one in which I was wearing clothes) to YouTube - check it out:

I'm still a bit in love with "Instructed", and I think this collaborative feminist porn film is my best work to date. If you haven't seen it yet, go watch it now and let me know what you think!

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