There’s a lot to be said for switching: you get the best of both worlds and double the opportunities to play. In The Aroused Disciplinarian, we get to find out what happened after Pandora, as the strict mistress of a traditional (ish) upmarket household, took the nanny over her knee for a well-earned spanking.
In The Naughty Nanny, Pandora was all discipline and dignity, ticking Amelia Jane Rutherford off thoroughly while punishing her with a hand spanking, whacks with a wooden ruler and finally a leather belt. This time, she’s in a much more mischievous and sensual mood. She confides that dishing out discipline excites her - and, more to the point, makes her long to experience a good, hard whacking herself. Wriggling with a mix of frustration and anticipation, she plays with the ruler she so recently applied to the nanny’s bare bottom, explaining that it had been used on her in her younger days.
Before long she comes to the conclusion that, as no one’s going to spank her, she will simply have to spank herself. She starts over her knickers – a nice pair of sheer black classics - but pulls them down when she decides that the smacks aren’t hurting quite enough. But can she give herself the good thrashing on the bare she craves?
Luckily the wooden ruler is a good choice for self-publishment, and leaves some impressive and well-placed red marks. I was personally impressed with Pandora's ability to place the strokes accurately on her own bum.
Self-spanking can sometimes feel a bit silly, but this film shows how thoroughly effective it can be. Pandora is hungry for pain and horny with it, and she knows she can take care of her own needs while maintaining responsible social distancing!
This film will leave a lasting impression. Just like that ruler.
Hello friends. Well, the world looks very different to how it did a month ago. How are you coping with social isolation? Are you furloughed from your job, trying to scrape a living working from home while self-employed, or still having to go to work? If you're stuck at home, I hope you're finding meaningful ways to spend the time. If you're a key worker, thank you from all of us, and I hope your workplace is playing their part to help you stay safe. And if you're a parent suddenly finding yourself with no time and no privacy, you have all my empathy!
My partner and I are taking it in turns to do bursts of childcare while the other gets a little work done. Since all my in-person bookings were suddenly cancelled, I've found myself with more time to work on Dreams of Spanking. Since my time is so scarce, I've been gathering a team around me to help me improve the website and re-ignite the project. I've had a long wishlist of things I'd like to improve since before I had my baby, and it feels really good to be making them happen. Here's what we've been working on behind the scenes:
New signup flow
One of the things that makes Dreams of Spanking unique is its community emphasis. I really appreciate the collective of fans and members who "like" scenes and leave comments on scenes and blogposts. Thank you to each and every one of you! So to keep the community focus, it's always been important to me that you should be able to keep your username for the lifetime of the site. Other spanking sites have "disposable" usernames, which you create when you buy a membership, but lose when that membership expires. We do things differently. Once you've created your username, you can buy a membership - or not. It's up to you. After your membership expires, you can still login to your free account using the same username, watch the free previews, and leave comments on blogposts. And when you feel like joining again, you can use the same username to do so.
I've received loads of feedback about how much you appreciate this feature. But the downside was that it made the initial registration process a little slower. First you had to create a free account, and only after you were logged in could you buy a membership. So I decided to make it simpler.
Now, if you're not logged in, clicking any of our "Join" links will take you to a signup page with a single, simple form. You enter your desired username and password, and - hey presto! - with a single click, your user account is created and you're passed through straight away to the payment form. You'll be sent an email containing a confirmation link - this is so that someone else can't create an account with your email address without your consent. Once you've clicked that, you're logged in and your membership is active. Simples!
If you're already logged in to a free account when you view the Join page, you just see a payment button, and you can click straight through to the billing form.
I noticed that people often made typos in their email addresses when registering an account, meaning they didn't receive the confirmation email. So the new signup form also has some clever validation trickery to check whether or not the username you want is already taken, prompt you to type your password and email address twice, and make sure they match.
I'm hoping that this will reduce the friction in the signup process, and make it easier for you to get to the good stuff.
New affiliate scheme
Bloggers take note! We've relaunched our affiliate scheme, with heaps of brand new free promo content. If you have a platform where you can share links and pics, you can make a massive 50% commission on any signups you send our way. If you want to take part, fill in this form to get your unique affiliate ID and linkcode. I've just updated our affiliates area with sixteen new photo and video galleries, so there's loads of content for you to use in your posts. Note: this is a new affiliate scheme and our previous one is no longer active, so if you have partnered with us before, you'll need to sign up again and refresh your links.
New update schedule
I checked in last May - eight months pregnant! - to let you know you could expect a regular update schedule of a new scene every month, even while I was on parental leave. With a team of freelancers supporting me, we were able to keep the site updated while I gave family life my full attention. And we've stuck to that.
It's April now, eleven months later, and there have been eleven scenes published on the site since I made that post. Huzzah! Feels good to be back to a regular, predictable update schedule, doesn't it? So now, I'd like to do one better. We need a little fun and entertainment to lift our spirits during this difficult time in the world. So I'd like to raise my game and offer two new spanking scenes every month. One will always be a video - either a full spanking scene starring two or more performers or, more realistic in this era of social distancing perhaps, a sexy solo video. The other might be a kinky audio porn recording of a spanking story, a spanking photoset, or a bonus video. I've got 24 scenes in the can, so that'll keep us supplied for a year before I need to shoot again. And hopefully, we'll all be allowed back out to play long before then!
20% off discount
I know that this is a hard time for all of us - particularly self-employed folk and those who have lost their jobs as a result of the pandemic. So I'm offering 20% off all memberships until the end of April. Use promo code "LOCKDOWN" to claim your discount, and make self-isolation a little bit sweeter.
In the current circumstances, audio stories are a good way to get a fix of naughtiness discreetly. Just put in some headphones and enjoy an intimate spanking fantasy, direct to your eardrums.
Bare That Bottom, Boy is an immersive little tale of domestic discipline and bare bottom spanking. And this fantasy is dirty. Pandora Blake plays a young and wicked stepmother to you, dear listener, in the role of a young man badly in need of discipline. Pandora slides from stern disciplinarian to teasing sensualist. Her "it's-for-your-own-good" strictness is spiced up with hints of tantalising, forbidden pleasures to come.
This story plays on the theme of erotic humiliation. Any subs with a taste for taboo naughtiness will find themselves squirming with anticipation.
As someone with a fondness for consensually mistreating cute young men, I personally found myself identifying more with Pandora than with her victim, but that made me enjoy it all the more. I could envisage myself participating in the ritualistic removal of skin-tight denim jeans, baring a pert, vulnerable pair of buttocks, all ready to be reddened by a good, hard spanking.
Fun though it is to relish the subtle touches which let you know there are naughty undercurrents to spankings and punishments, there are times when it’s even more fun to be explicitly filthy. The delightfully spiteful refinements Pandora proposes to include in this punishment gave me a few ideas to put into practice the next time I get someone cute and willing over my knee...
It’s all change at the moment: our lives are changing, this website is changing, everything’s on the move. I thought this might be a good time to have a quick glance back at last year - those halcyon days when we could still do weird exotic things like “go to the pub” and “have coffee with a mate” and “film in-person multi-performer spanking shoots” - for a nostalgic look at some of my personal highlights of 2019. This is entirely for that reason and not at all because I didn’t get round to it in January, of course.
#1: Even Teachers Make Mistakes
I may have been in this game a while now, but some of the real classics never grow old - and teacher/pupil is one of them. This take on the traditional school theme is an especial favourite of mine because it comes with a bit of a twist! I'm a bit proud of this still from the film. Mike’s aim is fantastic, and I love how clear and precise those six sharp stripes are.
#2: Behind The Scenes At ‘Mrs Smith’s Method’
We shot Mrs. Smith’s Method back in 2017, and it’s the most ambitious film we’ve ever made - I’m still extremely proud of it. Releasing this behind-the-scenes shoot last year made me proud too, though; of how much fun we all have on set, of the way we keep our ethics front and centre in the work we do and of the efforts we make to prioritise mutual care before, during and after. The combination of cheeky grins and a bare bum in this candid through-the-window snap is a little snapshot of that and it always makes me smile.
#3: In Big Trouble
We’re doing more filmed work than ever these days, but I still love putting together a gallery shoot. This one tells a story in a surprisingly moving way; there’s a lot of detail in every shot. My favourite is one that really has it all - you can see on our faces just what’s going through our minds, and this is a delightfully expressive photo.
#4: He Wouldn’t Spank Me
In this scene I played a disappointed sub whose promised weekend of naughtiness had ended in frustration - at least until I took matters into my own hands! Looking back on this was a lovely reminder of how much fun solo work can be, and also of how much I liked that characterisation; there was a coy, playful mischievousness to it that I think this photo sums up perfectly.
#5: Pandora’s Birthday Caning
For all I love playing characters, there’s something to be said for a scene that’s real - and this one was exactly that. Sarah and I had a great time making this, and getting to put out some content featuring me as myself is always a highlight for me. There’s a candid feeling to this photo; you can see that we’re both having such a great time we’ve half-forgotten the cameras are even there, and it’s a reminder that spanking is ultimately about fun and pleasure - as well as the roles we often take on around that.
#6: Carpe Posterium
We took a trip back in time for this Etonian-style scene. Much of my work features me at the femme-ier end of my range, so it was fantastic to embody something rather more masc in this shoot - plus, you know, silly Latin jokes. One of the great things about a tawse is the way your whole posterior lights up from it, and this photo is a lovely example of that!
Thank you to everyone who came through 2019 with us, and thank you again to all of you here for 2020 - and what a wild ride it’s turning out to be. We're not going anywhere - I mentioned in my previous post that I have plenty of shoots in the can for now, and we all love a bit of DIY solo action too - so we can keep the content coming right through the lockdown.
I love having a chat with viewers and site members, so please do leave a comment below - what were your favourite Dreams of Spanking updates from last year? And what are you looking forward to seeing more of in 2020 and beyond?
I’m going to do something I try to never do when I write: I’m going to preface this article. I wouldn’t usually, but the material is personal and incomplete and may seem a bit rambling and disconnected. However, I suspect that I’m not alone in the questions and conclusions that I’m mulling over, so please bear with me and hopefully there’s a kernel or two that resonates or contributes to a bigger conversation.
When I set out to watch Fetish Fvckdolls 2 (which if you haven’t watched it, I’d encourage you to do so at your earliest convenience) I wasn't expecting it to be a big deal. I’ve blogged here before about how watching porn that’s “not your usual taste” or incongruent with your own desires is interesting and can be enlightening. I was pretty sure that a collaboration by queer and trans performers like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 would be just that: interesting, but not my cup of tea.
Why? Well, I’m a straight-identifying, dominant-leaning cisgender woman who almost exclusively watches gay male chastity porn. Specific? Yup. And really kind of a world away from transfemme submission, which is the overarching main theme running through the four vignettes in Fetish Fvckdolls 2. You can see then how I might have thought that my interest in the film would be purely academic. Interestingly, it was not.
Now, I’m not here to say that this film changed me, nor should the incomplete epiphanies on sexuality that I’m sharing here be mistaken for me jumping on a bandwagon. Neither of those are true. What does feel true, is that I’m feeling really aware of my straight privilege after watching this film.
If you’re a straight person and that term makes you uncomfortable … I feel you. But it should make you uncomfortable. Privilege is a pervasive and dangerous thing when not acknowledged. Honestly, how two-dimensional of me to discount a film like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 as something that couldn’t touch me, something that I wouldn’t be able to identify with! How ridiculous and heteronormative of me to presume that I wouldn’t relate to these scenes. If it was mainstream lesbian porn (you know, the kind performed by cis women for the straight male gaze) would I have been so dismissive? Probably not, because I’m a straight woman who has had sex with other straight women and I’m blisteringly aware of the weight of the male gaze. But I presumed that I wouldn’t relate, or be aroused, by this.
Confused and intrigued, I discussed my bias with my husband, who has recently (or in his words: finally) self-identified as asexual. He watched part of Fetish Fvckdolls 2 with me and commented immediately that he hadn’t even noticed that the performers were trans until the fourth vignette because he was witnessing them as human beings, rather than sexual fantasies. I was surprised by that, because for me transfemme visibility is the point of the project. He asked what would make a film like Fetish Fvckdolls 2 more “my kind of porno”. I didn’t have an answer because I was processing that actually, this is my kind of porn.
Confused? Me too.
How could I think that gay male chastity porn is more relatable to me than porn that has trans women at the heart of it? Am I secretly kind of a bigot? But I know and love so many queer and trans people! Am I not as straight as I thought? Maybe, but that’s not the primary concern for me. The concern is that even though I think I know so much about sexuality, it turns out I don't know as much as I thought.
Yes, yes, we like what we like. The heart/loins want what they want. But it’s becoming evident to me now that the shackles of straight privilege (ie: never having to consider your sexuality or have it challenged, because it’s the cultural default setting) are just that: shackles.
What Fetish Fvckdolls 2 taught me about myself is that heteronormative thinking is limiting because the definitions are so static. “Straight” doesn’t leave much room for variety. Any “exploration” within straight sexuality is expected to be episodic, or at the most, a phase. So when, as a “straight” person, I watched this film, it was a bit dizzying to not see the performers as fantasy objects, and to relate to them on a human level. It revealed to me things I hadn't known before about how objectifying my gaze tends to be.
Fetish Fvckdolls 2 is radical and fresh. It puts trans women at the center of each encounter. Not only are they the subjects of their own experience, they are shown in willing and delighted submission. Not here the degrading porn tropes that cast trans women as exotic freaks with hard cocks, or strip them of autonomy - no, the trans women in Fetish Fvckdolls 2 are very clearly represented as the people they are. Full stop.
I learned that my erotic appetite, regardless of whom I choose to get frisky with, is essentially about the treatment and experience of the people involved, not the combination of bodies I see on the screen. I began to reflect on what turns me on and what turns me off in adult entertainment: it’s not the bodies at all. It’s the dynamics. I haven’t ignored trans porn in the past because it was trans. I've ignored it because when it’s badly done, it’s so likely to be dehumanising.
Fetish Fvckdolls 2 has been made with such smart and mindful intentions by everyone involved that the sexiness absolutely transcends all notions of genre and the limitations of what I thought I could be into. I watched the film three times. It’s 90 minutes long. It took me almost 5 hours of watching this film and then more time processing the experience for me to begin to get my head around these personal biases and blindspots.
What I have learned from Fetish Fvckdolls 2, what I’m so glad to begin to understand about myself, is that I like porn because I watching people fuck. Not just men, not just straight people, not just cishet couples. What I don’t like in porn is mindless and narrowly conceived narratives, and hegemonic control of my gaze. I’m not comfortable knowing that I have been a contributor to that mindlessness, a cog in the wheel of a cultural and artistic system that holds people back, misrepresents them and strips them of humanity, no matter how subtle the effect seems to be.
Having realised that, I want to do better. I know that I won’t always get it right, but only good can come from growth and empathy. And besides, if nothing else, a whole new world of porn just opened up to me, so if you’ll forgive me, I have some catching up to do …
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